By: Astrid Sinclair

For the longest time I have always considered myself a quiet one. I don’t say much while having sex, I might make a sound here and there to make you know that I am almost there and for you NOT to stop. But nevertheless and “ooooo yea” it’s the most it would come out of this mouth.

A few months ago I discovered that I not only like my martinis dirty but also my sexual life, dirty talk dirty sensual talk or in other more courageous words it’s also known as “oh baby DO me , lick IT, just like that, I like it when you suck HARD ,a little more to the left, up up uhmm yeah.

For the longest time I thought this “talk” was reserved to girls that would make a living out of talking dirty, I believed that if I had to do it, I would need a strong drink and ear plugs to not hear myself. It turns out that with the right person, a deep breath and the lights OFF; it’s much easier than I thought. In fact once I started it was almost inevitable to shut up.

How did I get there? Well simple… The same reason you are here, I wanted to please, to spice things up, to chew my shyness and spill it out with dirty words. You have to know that there is no easy start, even if you have been dating this person for months there is the initial fear of “oh my god what if they think this is stupid”… well to test the waters to see if your partner is open to this dirty talking try this little steps:

• If it makes you feel better turn off the light, that way you won’t be so conscious about their face expression.

• During foreplays start first by using words you will feel comfortable saying them out loud, for example: “you feel so good” “I like the way your kiss me” “I like it when you move like that”

• By now you should have gotten a hint, a quick response or what I call a curiosity reaction such as: Oh yeah? You like it?

• If you have gotten the curiosity reaction this could mean an indication that you have a green light, which means that there is interest. So go on, give it a little more not so much, let them want to give you seconds and thirds rounds. (after all you deserve the good time for putting yourself out there)

• The morning after write a little naughty sexy message and stick it somewhere they will find later and perhaps make them blush. For example: “I can’t wait to get you naked”

• Remember practice makes you better and If you want to take dirty talking to the next label grab a few erotica books skim to the steamy parts, it will give you some ideas and take your vocabulary out of the box.